Matching my outfit with my favorite Uberrime dildo! – girly style

I love sex toys, I love fashion, and I especially Love the opportunity to blend these two interests. So I’m sure you can understand why I was so excited when independent sex toy company Uberrime recently contacted me asking if I’d like to write an article about…

…how do custom toys feel like an expression/extension of yourself? You have such a consistent and memorable go-to color palette for both your business branding and your personal fashion, I think if anyone wanted a toy to “match” it might be you!

Needless to say, I enthusiastically responded yes!

I’m a big fan of the Uberrime Night King dildo (here’s my 2019 review if you want to read it) because its length, shape, and crowning ridge make it an absolute powerhouse of A-spot stimulation. The brand thoughtfully provided me with a new custom Night King in a color of my choice to highlight the ultimate customizability available on the Uberrime website. Color isn’t the only thing you can customize, either: You can also choose your preferred hardness for your new toy, and decide if you want a port for a bullet vibrator or Vac-U-Lock device on the base. Gotta love customized stuff!

For indecisive women, choosing a dildo color can be a challenge like mebut in this case, I knew exactly what I wanted: red and pink. In other words, I wanted a “lovecore” Night King. I love the colors, but perhaps more importantly for this post, I have a a lot of Clothes in these colors!

I started putting the outfit together in my head before my new Night King arrived on my doorstep – and when it arrived, it was so stunning that I was even more excited to style it. Are you ready to see the dildo-inspired combos I came up with?

lying lazily on the bed

When my friend Billy and I interviewed kink writer Tina Horne on our podcast in June, she said:

Part of the reason I know I’m not a woman is that I’ve learned a lot about what “female” means to women… One of the defining things I hear over and over again from women is that when no one is looking, Or resting as a woman, or putting lipstick on yourself… You can put lipstick on yourself, not because you’ve been brainwashed by the patriarchy!

While there are many valid definitions of femininity, this one (among others) resonates with me – because not only do I often wear lipstick when I’m alone, but I also often pair it with little loungewear “outfits” whose sole purpose is Makes me feel cute while staying comfortable. It’s an important outlet for my feminine tendencies, especially since – as a chronically ill freelancer – I spend Way I spend more time in and around my bed than most other places!

It’s exactly what I wear when I’m leisurely masturbating on a Saturday afternoon, and even when I’m doing toy testing during the week. When I’m looking to get high, comfort is paramount and this look takes that into consideration. (I paired the Night King with the pink We-Vibe Tango X because I – like most people with my anatomy – find dildos to be most pleasurable and effective when there’s some clitoral stimulation.)

What I wore:
• Dark red modal slip dress – Calvin Klein Sleepwear
• Pink and Red Heart Print Acrylic Cardigan – Unique Vintage
• Barefoot

party slut

It’s been a minute since I’ve been to a kink convention or play party (because, you know, pandemic + fibromyalgia), but I thought this would be the perfect outfit to wear to an event like a hypnotic chew or mind play workshop. Love a slut moment!

love core night king no absolutely correct Fits my little heart-shaped purse, but if you ask me, that’s part of the look…

What I wear:
• Pink ribbed cropped tank top – Forever 21
• Pink and red heart-print velvet sweatpants – an Etsy shop, now closed
• Neon Pink Striped Beanie – other The Etsy shop has gone out of business!
• Raspberry Pink Leather Heart Earrings – Unicorn Collaborators
• Pink/red/orange custom Nike Air Force 1 sneakers
• Red heart bag – Kate Spade

soft buck

One for bisexual lovers! (I consider myself in your league…)

It’s interesting to observe how the fluctuations in my chronic illness symptoms impact my gender presentation. Sometimes, a high pain day will make me wear something like this because this type of clothing is more practical and easier to style.

Sometimes my pain makes me feel so disconnected from my body that during sex I just want to reach the top, not the bottom – meaning I want to do things to my partner, but don’t want to be directly touched myself/ Pleasurable because it keeps me conscious own Those are the times when the body feels sick and depressed. I’d probably wear this outfit to a play party if I was in that mood, as it hints at the sex I’m and aren’t about to do and gives me a gentle swagger vibe while I’m at it Feel good top mode.

What I wore:
• Long-sleeved black shirt – a gift from mom
• High-waisted straight-leg jeans – Everlane
• Bright pink Doc Martens
• Aslan Leather Nicki Jaguar Harness with Uberrime Night King Dildo (read my review of this harness – it has been a favorite of mine for years!)

Extraordinary sex writer

Pre-pandemic, I wrote in coffee shops almost every day. I’d stuff my laptop into my handbag, put on some vibrant clothes, and hide in the corner of a coffee shop, sipping lattes and nibbling on muffins while writing about dicks, dates, and the “n” dom’s article. I miss it! (I still do it occasionally, but definitely not that often.)

This would be a perfect outfit to wear when writing a blog post in public – say, a review of My Love Core Night King! I throw the dildo in my bag before I leave the house in case I need to check its size or hardness etc while I’m writing – secretly and out of sight of other customers, of course!

What I wear:
• “Run the Fuck” T-Shirt – Museum of Sex Gift Shop (this quote is a Betty Dodsonism)
• Red Pencil Skirt – American Apparel
• Pink metallic cowboy boots – Jeffrey Campbell
• Pink Leather Satchel – Kate Spade (This was the first expensive/fancy bag I ever bought for myself, way back when I was 22, and I still love it)
• Red heart-shaped prescription glasses – Zenni
• Lovecore Night King + Limited Edition “Sakura” Lamy Safari Ballpoint Pen (a gift from my lover) + Pink Memo Pad (a gift from my brother)

Bonus Outfit: Real Sex

I’m serious yes It is a sex toy after all…!

To be honest, Super Night King has long It’s my wife’s dildo of choice when she fucks me with a strap-on. As mentioned before, it hits my A-spot with aplomb. When you wear a dildo on a harness, you typically lose an inch of usable dildo length due to the thickness of the harness itself, but the Night King’s 8 inches of insertable length means it’s still Can easily hit my A point. I chose the 12A/midcoast for the Night King and I’m glad I did because the sturdiness makes it feel excellent Hitting my position again and again. (Of course, it helps that my spouse’s tape game is top notch…)

My partner came to visit me recently and she brought her harness with her and we decided to try out my new Night King… I felt how hot it was as she slid it into her harness and lubed it up Looking in shock at her outfit, I asked if I could take a photo for this article. Luckily for me (and all of you!!), she said yes. Then, naturally, we had some amazing bondage sex

So, here’s a Very Real life examples of how sex toy aesthetics can enhance excitement and sexual arousal. Red is my spouse’s signature color, and it looks especially good on her, whether it’s lipstick, a mesh tank top, or (yes) a custom-made dildo—and I love how easily this dildo can be blended in Both Even though our styles are very different, our aesthetics are very different!

What is she wearing:
• Red mesh tank top – Berlin-based fetish clothing store Schwarzer Reiter
• RodeoH briefs suspenders
• Of course the Uberrime Night King dildo

If this article has you wondering how to match your outfit to your dildo – or match your dildo to your outfit! – So why not take a look at the rest of the Night King and Uberrime catalogs and choose a color that makes your heart flutter? Life is too short to have room for frustratingly ugly toys; I want my toys to be bright and beautiful works of art, and Uberrime makes some of the most beautiful silicone dildos I’ve ever seen. Even enough to be an essential part of some of my elegant outfits.

This post is sponsored by Uberrime, who I really, really like. As always, all writing and opinions (and clothing, except my spouse’s!) are my own.

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